Loving Others as They Are: Presence in Relationships

Would you choose to live in presence today?

I love Byron Katie’s stance of “Loving What Is,” the title of her 1st book.  Applying it to relationships I would suggest loving and accepting each person in your life and everyone you meet as they are in the moment.  If we stop and think of a person and feel resistance to this or that, the issue is in us, not them.  This does not excuse them from their work.  They either know what their work is already and have begun their own process of realization, or the Universe will remind them in a way that causes them to awaken and grow at some point in the future.

All we can address is our reaction to the other person and our own growth.  Our relationships don’t need saving truly, we do.  That is where our freedom lies.  Our freedom is never in what someone else feels, although we will feel compassion for them.  Beingness is compassionate by nature.  Your freedom, however, is in your own sense of Presence.  What then happens to your relationship will become known to you.  Your work is done.   Congratulations for being loving in the midst of an experience your ego may have found challenging, because of it’s initial resistance to “what is” or “what was.”  Now with your ego at rest, you are at peace.

Look at them in your mind’s eye and simply say, “I love you and I am one with you as you are.”   Get to the point where you deeply mean it.  And if it’s a person who has hurt you, we are not talking about being in the person’s physical presence or saying that what they did wrong was right.  We are talking about Oneness from the spiritual point of view that understands that everyone is made of the same substance, cut from the same cloth.  If it brings you to tears to feel one with them, fine.  You have likely broken something loose that has been hurting you for a while.  Transcend whatever resistance you feel as you say it. 

You must mean it for there to be truth in it.  It is true that all is well.  The other person you are thinking of is on their own path, and whether it is a tortuous one or not, is not our business.  It is the business of the Universe/God and nature of the person’s role in it.  We are simply here to love them.  Facing our resistance and reactions, we find ourselves at peace with everyone in our lives.  Start with one person tonight. 

One day, you will be done with your resistance to “what is.”  You will feel very free and very alive.  (for more, please see the post below on forgiveness).  If you need support, please give me a call or drop me a message through the contact box above.

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Would you choose to live in presence today?

NOTE: This is an excerpt from my book on raising consciousness that will be further edited prior to publication. If you have any feedback, please send me a comment via the “Contact Me” page above. Thank you.

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